My great-grandmother Brunhilda Ross (nee Torres) was a force to be reckoned with. She was a strong Puerto Rican woman who loved hard and hated harder. . .once she even slapped a clerk at a chocolatier for not having the candy she wanted in stock. If you were in her good graces, you would never be treated better than anyone else. She could be very generous – showering her favorites with praise and gifts. She could be motherly – one of my mother’s favorite memories was their date every year to see the Rockette’s at Radio City. She was also headstrong and could be more than a little domineering.
I grew up basking in the glory of her adoration. I can remember calling her to invite her to visit – I loved that she spent her golden years literally traveling the globe. I eagerly awaited both her stories of foreign lands and the currency she brought back for me for my collection. Gabby, my little sister, had the opposite experience with her. Their stubborn dispositions led to butting heads on numerous occasions and Gab was called “diablo” more than once.
On her visits to see my family, she would watch us until our parents returned from work. I was ecstatic to not have to go to our daily afterschool program; everyone else? Not so much. She was old school – what she said went, no exceptions and you better believe there was corporal punishment. She upheld every one of the rules my parents set and then some with an iron fist.
One of these rules was our boundaries system. We were only allowed to go about three or four houses down on either side without a parent being present. These were marked by a curve in the road on one side and a lamppost on the other. I was a pretty obedient child who generally stuck to these guidelines; Gabby was a bit more free in her interpretation of our invisible fence. One day, when I was 7 or 8, making Gab 5 or 6, she decided to go for a bike ride. It had just finished raining and the sidewalks were wet. Despite being told “No,” Gabby decided to take the path of exercise and fresh air and out she went. Little to our knowledge, this was a serious transgression in Bruni’s eyes. She went running out of the house after Gabby. As Gabby passed our house and the yelling coming out of our Great-Grandmother’s mouth, she pedaled her little legs past as fast as she could.
This did not fly and Bruni marched right over to our tree and pulled off a branch the size of a bat (not joking, no exaggeration it felt like this 85-year-old woman turned into Godzilla before our eyes). As she went after Gabby, paddle in hand, my brother followed her, who was followed by me. When Gabby got to the lamppost, she turned her head and looked back at us. You could see the wheels turning in her head – should she keep going? Or should she turn around and head back our way?
She took the path of obedience. As soon as she turned her bike around and bagan pedaling towards us, Bruni took her stance like she had entered the batter’s box. She was ready. Batter up: in one swift swing Gabby was off her bike and battle was won. She got in trouble for disobeying our Great-Grandmother (who left the next day) until our brother saved the day. What was first a horror story has now become a family joke that when shared elicits both shaking heads and laughter.